Divorce Journal Entry #14

12:13 pm

I just left from talking to a counselor. He asked me what love language my wife is. I told him that I didn’t know the different types of love languages, but could guess a few.

I told him acts of service was one. Gifts was another. Then I stopped.

He told me that the need for physical touch is one. He said that women who possess this language will say things like,
“I wish you would hold me more”
“I wish you would kiss me more”

He then told me that words of affirmation is another.

I instantly looked at him and my eyes opened wide. Until now I had not seen that my wife’s love language was personal touch and words of affirmation.

I have been telling her how much I love her through acts of service and gifts, but it wasn’t the type of language she needed the most.

I asked him how I can show her affection when we’re going through something like this. He very plainly told me that I’m shit outta luck. He encouraged me to continue to share my heart with her through kindness and sincerity. Then, just maybe, she will open the door an ounce where I can begin to focus on her language.

I want to read the book “Five Love Languages”. Maybe this will help me to show her how I feel in her language more completely.