Divorce Journal Entry #25

1:32 pm

I just received the following email from the Federal Probation and Parole officer I’ve been talking to about the happenings in *******:

“Please know that I look at myself and wonder who the heck I am to help someone else in such situations, and then other times it seems that I’ve got something to say because I’ve lived so much of it.

Here are some of what I think are truths:

- Amie has already forgiven you for your actions. This is evidenced by the fact that she has stayed with you for so long after knowing of his indiscretions. Amie is running from the actions of a government with the encouragement from third parties.

- You have already atoned for your actions in Amie’s mind and heart. Further attempts to make up for your indiscretions will likely be fruitless.

- It is not possible for you to repair the damage that the government has done in Amie’s life. She will have to come to the conclusion on her own that the government attacked them both, and she will have to do this in her own time and in her own way. It is my opinion that you can help this process only by giving her time and space to come to these conclusions. You will be best served by accepting the fact that she will not do this on your timeline.

Two things that I have learned over the last 13 years doing the job that I do:
1.People change.
2.People change when they are ready to change, not when I am ready for them to.”